Jacquelyn Stouffer Cox Goge, 84

September 08, 2011
  • Jacquelyn Stouffer Cox Goge
Jacquelyn Stouffer Cox Goge

Our beloved wife, mother and grandmother, Jacquelyn Stouffer Cox Goge, 84, formerly of Hagerstown, and more recently of Frederick, Md., passed away peacefully in her sleep on Thursday, Aug. 25, 2011, after a brief illness at Shady Grove Hospital, where her children and grandchildren had been holding vigil.

Jacquelyn Stouffer Cox Goge (Jaci), a native of Hagerstown, was born Nov. 4, 1926, and grew up in Hagerstown. She was the daughter of Lloyd Lantz Stouffer, a vice president of Pangborn Corp., and Josephine Garver Stouffer, both Hagerstown natives. Her maternal grandfather, J. William Garver, was the son of Elizabeth Ann Lehman, a reformed Mennonite of the Long Meadow Lehmans, and John W. Garver was an early member of the German Reformed Church built by Jonathan Hager.

Jacquelyn grew up attending Zion Reformed Church as had her relatives before her. She enjoyed swimming, tennis and golf at Fountainhead Country Club. She spent summers there as a lifeguard. Jaci attended Hagerstown High School for two years until she enrolled in the Greenwood School for Girls in Ruxton, Md., from which she graduated in 1944. She took part in Glee Club and Drama Club. Her senior quote was from Horace: “Without love and laughter there is no joy; live amid love and laughter.”

She graduated with high honors from Sarah Lawrence College in Bronxville, N.Y., in 1948 with a degree in psychology. College was an exciting, stimulating time for her, and included everything from the great museums to amazing shopping and Frank Sinatra in concert. Her best memories were of writing and psychology classes and working with the babies in a foundling home.

During the child-rearing years, Jaci took part in fundraising fashion shows, belonged to the American Association of University Women and was a volunteer for the new Planned Parenthood clinic.

After her children were grown, Jaci worked in several professions, including design consultant for display systems for conferences, customer service representative at National Geographic and tour guide for model homes. By far, her most memorable career was her time as a bridal consultant for Lena Darner’s Bridal Salon in Hagerstown, during which she contributed to the happy weddings of many local brides.

Jaci’s favorite role was as grandmother to her grandchildren. Jaci thought grandchildren were life’s greatest gift. She adored spending time with them. To her grandchildren, she was “Grandma Bubbles” because of a small (working) bubble blower pendant she liked to wear. She furnished a dollhouse for the girls and supplied crafts and toys for all. There was lots of time spent swimming and eating Happy Meals. Jaci’s biggest disappointment was that she didn’t live long enough for the arrival of great-grandchildren.

When not playing with the grandchildren, she loved to be outside soaking in the sun while walking, swimming, or golfing. Other hobbies included antiquing, collecting crystal decanters and salt cellars, and amassing piles of cookbooks. She spent some time as a docent at Rose Hill Manor.

Jaci married Arthur Woods Cox Jr. in 1948. They later divorced after raising four children and 27 years of marriage.

In 1977, she married her second husband, Martin Goge of Frederick.

She is survived by her husband, Martin; her four children, Stephanie Whitenton-Cox and her husband, Eric, of Sandy Hook, Md., Todd Cox Sr. and his wife, Patti, of New Market, Md., Lantz Cox and his wife, Laurie Culbert, of Millstone, N.J., and Bryce Cox and his wife, Christine, of Frederick; her five stepchildren, Theresa Goge of Ridgway, Colo., Martin Goge Jr. and his wife, Jenny, of Williamsport, Md., Maureen Goge of Bedminster, N.J., James Goge and his wife, Julie, of Westminster, Md., and Christopher Goge of Germantown, Md.; her nine grandchildren, Zach Cox, Erin Cox, Garver Davenport Diehl, Katie Cox, Todd Cox Jr., Matthew Cox, Carli Cox, Lily Culbert Cox and Charlotte Culbert Cox; and her four stepgrandchildren, Nicole Goge, Alex Goge, Abbey Goge and Ashley Goge. She also is survived by a special friend of the family, Connie Hoover Stottlemeyer.

At her request, she was cremated. Interment and a memorial service will be Saturday, Sept. 24, 2011, at 11 a.m. at the Stouffer family plot at Rest Haven Cemetery, Hagerstown. Family and friends are welcome to attend.

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