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Got a goal? Don't. Give. Up. Not ever.

April 26, 2010|By CHAD SMITH

"Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them. Every day begin the task anew."

-- Saint Francis de Sales

Ask me what I believe the difference between success and failure is, and I'd say it's the inability to accept defeat.

Being stubborn isn't always a bad thing. I've found that my most successful clients are the ones who absolutely don't allow anything to get them off goal. If they have a less than stellar day of eating, they are right back at it the next day. If they miss a workout, they work harder at the next one.

My most successful clients don't dwell on temporary setbacks or sticking points. They realize that fitness is a marathon, not a race, and find a way through or around obstacles that could hinder their progress. They are hard-headed, stubborn sons of guns. They simply Will. Not. Quit.

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That's really the key: Don't ever give in until you get to where you want to go.

This applies to any goal you might have, not just a fitness goal. Donald Trump, one of the most successful men in history, hasn't always been successful. He has made and lost millions of dollars several times. In fact, The Guinness Book of Records lists him as having the biggest financial turnaround in history.

In an interview with Psychology Today magazine, Trump said "In the early 1990s, I owed billions of dollars and many people thought I was finished," says Trump. "I refused to give in to the negative circumstances and I never lost faith in myself. I didn't believe I was finished even when the newspapers were saying so. I refused to give up. Defeat is not in my vocabulary."

Defeat isn't in his vocabulary. Can you imagine having that kind of attitude? What could you do?

I'm a huge fan of mixed martial arts fights, and I'll often see a fighter I think is on his way to meeting the canvas get a win from a small opening he was observant enough to take advantage of.

On the path to success, you can expect to take more punches than you will throw. But all it takes to win in an opening and one good punch to knock out whatever obstacle is in your road. Stay in the fight.

You have every God-given ability to get where you want to go. You just have to stop accepting defeat and start expecting success.

If you want weight loss, it's actually pretty simple. Eat well, train hard; eat better, train harder. I just summed up all 54,193 diet books available on Amazon.com in only eight words.

Figure out what you have to do to get there, and do it consistently with tenacity. Accept that you will have hills and valleys on your way there.

Consistent persistence is the main ingredient in the psychological-success gumbo. This is the most common trait not only in my most successful clients but in all of the successful people I've read about -- Donald Trump, music producer Sean Combs, best-selling author and entrepreneur Robert Kiyosaki, and Microsoft founder and philanthropist Bill Gates.

These men had a diehard attitude about winning and a severe dislike of failure. They aren't any smarter or better than you. They just think differently. They've had "up" periods and some pretty painful "down" periods where they were at failure's doorstep. They didn't dwell on those situations. Instead they continued to look for openings to get back into the fight.

You can do the same thing.

Chad Smith is co-owner of Home Team Fitness. Visit his Web site http://www.hometeamfitness.net.

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