No excuse for cheating in relationships


March 21, 2006|by STEPHANIE SNYDER

According to, love is "a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness."

In the sense of a relationship, I feel this means devoting your love to a single person and staying entirely faithful to that one person. It means that when you make the commitment to go steady with someone or marry someone, you have morals.

Specifically, you don't cheat.

Cheating, according to the same Web site, is "to violate rules deliberately or to mislead or fool."

When cheating on your partner, you are breaking the rules, whether it be the rules of a relationship or the moral rules of personal integrity.

Cheating can be done in many forms, not just by showing physical affection toward other people. It is senseless to me that a partner in a committed relationship would look at pornography or flirt with other people. The point of being in a relationship is to find fulfillment and happiness with someone you love and who loves you in return. Why bother being seriously involved with someone only to seek out others?


I personally don't feel that you can "fall out of love." In my opinion, if your eyes and feelings stray to other people, you must not be in love with your current partner.

I have questions for people who do believe in "falling out of love." Why not just end your current relationship and start seeing someone new? How can it be easier to sneak around, destroy trust and hurt someone's feelings?

As I see it, a person who stays in a relationship for the sake of not losing his or her current partner, yet has lovers on the side, is nothing more than selfish.

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