It's not good idea to intervene in friend's problems

December 04, 2005|By CAROL KLEIMAN

Dear Coach: A colleague of mine, who also is a friend, is going through terrible financial problems. He hasn't told anyone but me, but I think our company could help him out. Shall I tell our manager about this?

Carol Kleiman: Though your aim is to help, do not tell anyone about his problem, which he discussed with you in confidence. Instead, suggest to him that management might be able to help. It's his decision if he wants to do that.

Dear Coach: I am a first-year MBA student looking for a job. What is the best way to tell an interviewer that I need to get off earlier two days a week to attend classes?

Carol Kleiman: Offer to come in earlier on those two days or to stay later on the other three days.

Dear Coach: On behalf of my daughter, I hope you can offer some advice. She lost her first job after only a few months and now is serving an internship on a temporary basis. She works hard and does no personal business at work, but her current employer has told her she can use the company's computers for her job search. She doesn't feel comfortable doing this. I think she's wrong. What do you think?


Carol Kleiman: If the person in charge of her internship has given her the go-ahead, she should spend every free moment using the computer to further her job search.

And here's some unsolicited advice: It's important to be supportive, but you can't do a job search for your daughter. She has to do it herself. You can't buffer it for her, no matter how loving your intentions.

Dear Coach: I'm thinking of applying for a job at the same company where my ex-husband's new wife works. We have a cordial relationship. Should I?

Carol Kleiman: No. Don't ask for trouble.

Carol Kleiman is the workplace columnist for the Chicago Tribune. Send e-mail to

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