Even the best valentines can't read minds. While you might be planning a day of romance, your boyfriend or girlfriend might view Feb. 14 as the same as any other day. A bit of preparation can help you avoid disappointment, Weston said.
"This all has to be handled with care. If you think there's a pretty good chance that he's clueless about the 14th, drop him a hint," she said. "Tell him you're planning a surprise for him. Some wonderful boyfriends are not great romantics. Don't confuse his Valentine's gift (or lack thereof) for his feelings."
In addition to being less romantic, in general, than teenage girls, Carle said, teen guys might not have any idea how to approach Valentine's Day. It's OK to gently express disappointment if you feel let down, but try to understand where your guy's coming from.
"While the girl gets all mushy, the boy doesn't know what to do," Carle said. "Don't be surprised if the boy stays away on Valentine's Day because he doesn't know how to handle it."