Find out if you know a sex addict

August 22, 2004

Sex Addicts Anonymous provides a self-assessment test for sex addiction on the organization's Web site at Answering "yes" to one or more of these questions might indicate a sex-related problem:

  • Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you?

  • Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

  • Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

  • Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or prevent you from facing problems?

  • Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you often feel remorse, shame or guilt after a sexual encounter?

  • Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

  • Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns that prompted you to leave the last relationship?

  • Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

  • Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of such practices as voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution or indecent phone calls?

  • Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

  • Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion or violence?

  • Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others or suicidal?

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity also offers sex addiction screening tests at on the Web.


Psychologist and sex therapist Brenda Schaeffer provides online assessments for love, romance and sex addiction at

There is help for compulsion

To learn more about sexual addiction, or to find a support group, contact Sex Addicts Anonymous ( or 1-800-477-8191), Sexaholics Anonymous ( or 1-866-424-8777), Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous ( or 1-781-255-8825), Sexual Recovery Anonymous ( or Sexual Compulsives Anonymous ( or 1-800-977-HEAL).

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