Each time I see a terrified parent on TV begging for the safe return of a child, my heart just breaks.
The abduction of a child has to be a parent's worst nightmare.
What can we do to prevent this from happening? How can we keep our children safe?
"Quite frankly, I think the best thing a parent can do right now is scare your child," says Dr. Bunni Tobias, a licensed educational psychologist with a private practice in Southern California. "Children need to know to be cautious. Children are naive.
"Herein lies the danger. Children have no fear. They feel protected."
While we want to protect them, they need to be aware of their surroundings.
The "V" word used to be victory. Now it's vigilance, says Tobias, who bills herself as The Kids' Detective at
Tobias recommends that parents stage scenarios with their children in public places. Here's how it could work: Parents ask someone they know to use a common abductor's lure and see how their children respond. The person should be someone the parents trust but the children do not know.