letters 3/18

March 19, 2002

We must change to save our daughters

To the editor:

Picture yourself sitting in a circle with 15 to 20 men, who are emotionally engaged in a discussion that is obviously tearing you apart as well as every other person sitting in the circle. The discussion on this particular day is about teenage promiscuity, an issue that has reached crisis proportion and is leaving parents from all walks of life stressed to the breaking point.

Now back up for a second and picture these same men sitting not in a college classroom or high school, or community center for that matter but in a room somewhere inside of a prison, where they have elected to share and discuss this very personal matter with a group of men who are facing or have faced the same issue while incarcerated. What do you say to a teenage daughter who has become sexually active and in many cases promiscuous?


Many of these men learn that their daughters are sexually active through letters often without much explanation, which creates deep conflict within them. So with deep reservation they openly discuss ways of bridging the gap between them and a daughter who represents their role in the same game.

A game which can reduce females to nothing but a piece of meat and has often come to symbolize for the male, a testament of one's manliness. Which is why these discussions turn ugly very quickly and in some cases almost violent, due to the inability of the men to accept the reality that their babies are no longer babies.

You see, we men still view our daughters as princesses and queens in training. So when we learn that our 15 and 16 year old daughters are sexually active, it destroys something within us.

One of the most common reactions is to blame the other parent, and the media, with all the millions of dollars spent on commercials and advertisement that exploit young women's sexuality and promotes early sexual activities through popular shows showcasing young and beautiful models and actresses with tight bodies, draped in the best of garb leaving absolutely nothing for the imagination.

But the issue is not the clothes, I am convinced that we are heading for moral bankruptcy and the only chance of saving our children from this fate is to change how we think and view the moral issues we are facing and become outraged with the media, Congress, Social Services and anyone else who interferes with our rights as parents.

Rafiki Abdul Karim

# 199426

Maryland Correctional Institution


We're a home for weekend, uh, warriors

To the editor:

My feathers have been ruffled. Recently, The Morning Herald on Feb. 21, had an article by Richard Regan on demeaning masots/names at local schools, including the Boonsboro Warriors.

The definition for "warrior" is a fighting man; experienced soldier. Hence, this does not connote and/or demean or mock any Indians. By definition, the individuals in the various branches of the armed services are deemed warriors.

Perhaps, other mascots or names should be altered. What images do the following conjure? For example, Mount St. Mary's College and West Virginia Mountaineers (rustic; bucolic), Duke Blue Devils, Wake Forest Demon Deacons (possessed man of the cloth), Notre Dame Fighting Irish (pugilism) and, finally, Maryland Terrapins (slow, sluggishness).

Regan also made a demeaning comment about Western Marylanders as being conservative, rural, non-progressive thinking and no diversity. Perhaps, there is merit in these virtues. Why is there a migration from the urban Baltimore-Washington megalopolis to pastoral western Maryland? Week-end warriors leave the urban smog for the bucolic west for cleaner air and water.

I have experienced the stressful, urban life (College Park) but prefer the reduced stress of a rural setting. Currently, my family residence is in Waynesboro, Pa., where we live under the tepee of the Waynesboro Indians.

In my opinion, there are more pressing issues that are apropos for one's energy. Mr. Regan's intentions are honorable but flawed. This could open a virtual Pandora's Box with inane lawsuits.

In conclusion, the "Warrior" moniker does not exhibit mockery or is demeaning. I have no regrets and am proud to be a Boonsboro Warrior alumnus and a bucolic.

Harry C. Grove III

Boonsboro Class of 1965

Waynesboro, Pa.

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