Dear Katy: How do I approach the guy I have a major crush on?

February 12, 2000

I need your advice. There is this guy at school that I have a major crush on. The thing is, he doesn't even know my name. I have two classes with him, and I always want to say something, but I just don't have the nerve because I'm afraid I'll sound stupid. My friends all give me a hard time because I really like him and don't even know him. Am I crazy to care about someone who I don't even know? If not, how do I talk to him? Help me!

- Crushing hard

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Dear Crushing hard,

It's totally normal to have a crush on someone you don't know. I think everyone has liked someone from afar at some point.

As far as your friends go, I don't understand why they're giving you a hard time.

Even if they don't have an infatuation for someone in your school, what about a celebrity like Brad Pitt? Everyone's guilty of wishful thinking, even if they don't admit it.


I can sympathize with what you're going through. There's this guy I see on campus a lot, but it's always from afar. I don't even know his name, but that doesn't stop me from keeping my eyes open in hopes that I'll catch a glimpse of him.

I'm actually beginnning to think that he's a figment of my imagination because he always disappears before I can get close enough to talk to him.

Then again, maybe he's noticed my stares and is a little frightened.

Whatever the case, I know how it feels to have a crush on somebody. Like I said before, I think everyone does.

You, however, probably have more of a chance than I do. You have two classes in which you have an opporutnity to strike up a conversation. I can't even come within 10 feet of him before he magically vanishes.

Find out what the two of you have in common. You could talk about something as simple as homework, since you share two classes. I know it's hard to take the plunge because rejection is a scary concept, but sometimes it's worth it.

You don't have to wow him by saying something incredibly smart or wearing something incredibly revealing, just be yourself. Start out by becoming friends.

Who knows? You may get to know him, and that little crush will have totally disappeared. And if it hasn't, you've got a friendship to build on.

Katy Huffer is a sophomore at Hagerstown Community College. E-mail her at

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