Workshops help turn up the heat

June 17, 1999

In workshops developed by Patricia Love, the aptly named author of "Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking," biology and passion are discussed.

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Susan Townsend, a Baltimore psychologist specializing in couples therapy, was trained by Love and conducts two-day Hot Monogamy workshops for groups of about 10 to 12 people at her Relationship Enrichment Center in Towson, Md. The light and fun setting of the workshops gives people permission to open up, Townsend believes.

"We also work on communication skills," Townsend says. Those include listening with empathy, reflecting on what your partner has said and validating it, she explains. Some words are offensive to some people. In communicating about sex, it's helpful for participants to make a list of words that are OK and words that are not. Asking for change without being insulting also is important, Townsend says.

Another area of discussion is letting go of unrealistic body standards in a culture obsessed with beauty, youth and thinness.


Townsend believes that the workshops are a good tool for couples. Participants have found them relaxing and energizing, she says.

For information about the workshops, call 1-410-583-1148.

Love will conduct workshops about Hot Monogamy, and Barry McCarthy will conduct a workshop titled "Marital Sex As It Ought To Be" at "Smart Marriages, Happy Families," the third annual conference of the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education, Thursday, July 1, to Sunday, July 4, in Washington, D.C.

For information, call 1-202-362-3332, or visit the Web site at

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