Jealousy can cramp your style

October 16, 1998


Was there ever a moment when you were envious of someone else? Perhaps of who they were or even what they had?

I don't like to think of myself as a jealous person. However, we've all had our moments when the green-eyed monster has taken hold of us.

The biggest reason for jealousy? Ask any teenager and they'll tell you it's relationships. Jealousy has the power to complicate any dating situation.


Although we know that jealousy is a big turnoff when it comes to romance, sometimes we still can't help ourselves. If we're not totally comfortable in a relationship, we begin questioning the other person's feelings for us. That's when the trouble starts.

Before long, every time we see them with someone else, we automatically think something is going on. Assuming that something is happening behind our back is the jealousy talking.

Before long, you find yourself playing detective to your boyfriend's every move. This is where you should draw the line. Becoming a stalker is not the key to keeping your boyfriend interested.

If you get jealous in a relationship, it's probably an indication that you don't completely trust the person you're with. However, don't freak out if you get pangs of jealousy from time to time. It takes awhile to build trust in a relationship.

Most of the time, jealousy is just a passing phase. If you wait it out, it eventually passes.

The weird thing about it is that we're usually jealous of petty things. The stupidest, smallest things are the ones that get to us the most. Then when we look back on it, we can't believe how we made such a big deal out of nothing.

Jealousy also is at the root of so many broken relationships. Whether it's someone you were dating, or someone you were friends with, one bout with jealousy can destroy it all.

I've been lucky enough that I've never lost a friend over jealousy. Sure, we've had arguments, but never over something as petty as that. We talk things over, instead of bottling them up. That way, jealousy never has a chance to get the best of us.

We all have a tendency to be a little unsure of ourselves. That's when jealousy sneaks up on us. Being jealous isn't always a bad thing. But sometimes the way we handle it is.

Katy Huffer is a sophomore at Hagerstown Community College.

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