Letters to the editor

October 15, 1997

What Rowland doesn't realize about marriage

To the editor:

I'm responding to Tim Rowland's column in the Monday, Oct. 6 Herald-Mail in which he apparently was making light of a good and workable and pleasant relationship that is attainable in marriage which "Promise Keepers" professed during their rally in D.C. the previous Saturday.

While I agree with a lot of their rhetoric, I wish to convey in a public way, my own convictions and assertions, based on my own experience as a marriage partner.

My dear wife, Marlene, who went home to be with her Lord about 16 months ago, to whom I had the honor of being her husband and closest friend, was a fine example and devoted wife, whom I enjoyed living with!


Yes, we did have some disagreements; we didn't always see everything alike, but I'll tell you the secret of a happy marital relationship. First of all, we both had an experience of Bible salvation and sanctification. When both partners in marriage are consecrated to perform God's holy will in their own hearts and lives, not demanding their own way all the time, but unselfishly desiring to make each other happy, this will help tremendously toward a very pleasant relationship! I know. I've been there!

Though it was very painful to lose her, I have many cherished memories of the years I spent with her! I'm sure there are many others who can say the same things I'm saying, however, sad to say, there are many more that would have to confess that their marriage is less than delightful.

When a married couple will jointly put the Lord Jesus first in their lives, they won't be at each other's throat. The husband, though he be the head of the home, will not be a brute or a tyrant. The wife will not be domineering toward her husband.

In fact, they will submit to each other in a beautiful relationship of unconditional love! God builds the best relationships this world will ever know! To God be the glory and the praise!

Tim, I hope you read my response!

Edgar M. Foltz, Jr.

Greencastle, Pa

OTB parlor should kick in to gaming fund

To the editor:

The fate of an off-track betting parlor in Hagerstown rests with the Maryland Racing Commission, which will decide whether to give Bally's permission to locate a facility here for wagering on harness racing. Input from local and state elected officials and the public will be considered, however, the racing commission is not obliged to follow local sentiment.

Washington County has a gaming law that requires a percentage of tip jar proceeds from clubs and taverns to go to a Gaming Fund for distribution to charitable organizations and the fire and rescue companies.

As the final decision to admit Bally's appears to be out of local control, the local powers that be should, at the very least, lobby the racing commission to require that Bally's contribute somewhere between 15 percent of its gross profits (like the clubs do) and 50 percent of its gross profits (like the taverns do) to the gaming fund for distribution to local charities and fire and rescue companies.

The same formula that currently applies to the clubs and taverns should be applied to any for-profit organization that seeks to locate in Washington County. Otherwise, it could be argued, the money that now goes into the Gaming Fund may be diminished if people decide to gamble on horse racing rather than tip jars. If that were to happen, less money would be available for critical services the fire and rescue companies provide, and less money would be available to help feed the hungry and shelter the homeless.

Sue Tuckwell


Promise Keeper's wife speaks out

To the editor:

As the wife of a man who has attended several Promise Keepers events, I have been reading with great interest the various articles presented in the newspaper. But nowhere have I seen the basic principles on which Promise Keepers is based. I think it may help your readers to better understand the goals of the Promise Keepers if this information is made available to them.

The seven promises of a Promise Keeper:

1. A Promise Keeper is committed to honoring Jesus Christ through worship, prayer, and obedience to God's word in the power of the Holy Spirit.

2. A Promise Keeper is committed to pursuing vital relationships with a few other men, understanding that he needs brothers to help him keep his promises.

3. A Promise Keeper is committed to practicing spiritual, moral, ethical, and sexual purity.

4. A Promise Keeper is committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection, and biblical values.

5. A Promise Keeper is committed to supporting the mission of the church by honoring and praying for his pastor, and by actively giving of his time and resources.

6. A Promise Keeper is committed to reaching beyond any racial and denominational barriers to demonstrate the power of a biblical unity.

7. A Promise Keeper is committed to influencing his world, being obedient to the great commandment (See Mark 12:30-31) and the great commission (See Matt. 28:19-20).

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