Tips for parents
What to do when your kids shock you
Experts say parents should:
Get emotional distance from teenagers by talking over bad behavior with a spouse, other parents or a counselor.
Be respectful toward teenagers and let them know their bizarre behavior is their own responsibility.
Assert parental authority by outlining what is acceptable in the home.
Present their own views on how things should be, but not insist that kids be the same way.
Stress that what goes on outside the home is the teenager's responsibility.
Negotiate the types of clothes to be bought for school and play. For example, agree on the baggy pants in exchange for a promise that they be worn above the buttocks.